Mmm-hmm. That is one of the major drawbacks to facebook. I'm right there with you on the creepy uncle and for added fun the obnoxious mother-in-law who monitors every single thing that I post and then asks me about it.
If you want to keep the peace, you can accept the friend request and then quietly un- friend. Or you can always blame facebook and say "oh, I never received your friend request" after you ignore.
Or you can accept the friend request and then HIDE that person - you won't see anything they've posted. I'm not sure if they will still see what you've posted. But if this uncle is so creepy, why not just defriend him?
you can also make yourself totally invisible to him -- there's a particular setting on fb that means that if he ever looks you up to see even your name he will not be able to find it. He will also not be able to see you listed on the friends list of mutual acquaintances or family, nor read your comments on any of their posts. This doesn't mean that he will not know that you were once on fb, but if you're lucky he might think you just cancelled your account.
If you want to accept his friend request (say, to keep the peace) you can then set your privacy settings so that he can't actually see the things you are posting.
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Oh dear.
Can he still see your posts if you don't friend him back? I'm not entirely familiar with how FB permissions work.
Mmm-hmm. That is one of the major drawbacks to facebook. I'm right there with you on the creepy uncle and for added fun the obnoxious mother-in-law who monitors every single thing that I post and then asks me about it.
IGNORE! IGNORE! IGNORE!
If you want to keep the peace, you can accept the friend request and then quietly un- friend. Or you can always blame facebook and say "oh, I never received your friend request" after you ignore.
Or you can accept the friend request and then HIDE that person - you won't see anything they've posted. I'm not sure if they will still see what you've posted. But if this uncle is so creepy, why not just defriend him?
Stuff like that is why I recently deactivated my Facebook account. [shudder]
you can also make yourself totally invisible to him -- there's a particular setting on fb that means that if he ever looks you up to see even your name he will not be able to find it. He will also not be able to see you listed on the friends list of mutual acquaintances or family, nor read your comments on any of their posts. This doesn't mean that he will not know that you were once on fb, but if you're lucky he might think you just cancelled your account.
IF you ignore him, then he can't see your stuff. :)
You can set your profile so that people can't 'friend' you, they can only petition you to friend them....
But still, creepy folks are creepy...
If you want to accept his friend request (say, to keep the peace) you can then set your privacy settings so that he can't actually see the things you are posting.
IGNORE IGNORE IGNORE
Embrace the ignore button! Good lord, if I were friends with every creep who tried to "friend" me on facebook, I'd--I'd--be friends with them. Ew!
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